After Years of Sending Parents Money Every Month, Son Decides to Cut the Funds in Favor of His Newborn Baby, Only for Dad to Never Respond to the Announcement

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jun 1, 2026 8:30 AM EDT

Who should you put first, the family you were born into, or the family you created as an adult?

Even though no one should be put in a spot where they have to choose, many often find themselves in a scenario where they have to put one family in front of the other.

The son in the story below, for example, must choose between his parents and his soon-to-be child, and for him, the choice is not that hard. During his discussion in an online community, this son explained that in his family, it is customary for all children to help support their parents when they reach adulthood. Apparently, this son and his siblings have all been sending their parents money on a monthly basis, all because they were raised with the idea that it was their responsibility to support their parents financially.

However, the son and his wife are now expecting a baby, and in order to afford the expansion of the family, the son must make a choice: either keep sending his parents money or stop sending funds to avoid a financial strain when the baby comes. The choice didn't end up being that hard to make, and the son sent his dad a kind message explaining the situation and informing him that he would no longer be sending them any money.

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    A man (model) holding a newborn baby in his arms.
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    A man (model) holding a newborn baby in his arms.

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    AITA for stopping the monthly money I was sending my parents?

    My wife and I are expecting our first baby. On top of that, we have an upcoming move and a bunch of bills piling up. Money is tight and we had to make some hard decisions.
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    For years now I've been sending my parents money every month. My two siblings do the same. Between the three of us they receive a considerable amount,
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    and on top of that my mom gets a government benefit. So they're not in a desperate situation financially.
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    I sent my dad a kind message explaining our situation and telling him I needed to pause what I was sending. I was as gentle as I could be. He never responded. It's been 4 hours.
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    My wife and I agreed on this together and she supports the decision fully. So... AITA?
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    EDIT: Some context I should have included talking about money with my parents has always been a source of conflict. We were basically raised with the idea that supporting them financially was
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    our responsibility as children. So this conversation was never going to be easy, regardless of how I delivered it.
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  • If we were in these parents' shoes, and we discovered that we are going to have a grandbaby, there would be no chance that we would continue taking money from our son. It should be extremely clear to the parents that the son should put his own baby first, and that they are downgraded to second place.

    For all intents and purposes, this baby should come first for every single member of this family.

    But will that be the parents' take from the whole ordeal? We're not sure, and neither is their son…

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    Neveronlyadream NTA. If it's something you want to do any you can do it, that's your choice. You have a baby on the way and
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    You have a baby on the way and money is tight, so keeping it up means the baby gets less. If they want to throw a fit over that, let them.
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    A model holding a credit card while paying for something on his computer.
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    A model holding a credit card while paying for something on his computer.

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    embopbopbopdoowop NAH so far. "He never responded. It's been 4 hours."
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    The whiplash I got from this statement. He NEVER responded, gasp! ... to a message you only sent four hours ago.
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    No response in four hours doesn't mean they're outraged. There's no conflict here. (Yet.)
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    Slow_Writing7823 NTA - your 1st obligation is to the family you created.
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    Parasamgate NTA. They played the long con. They started telling you when you were too young to know better that their money was your responsibility. It isn't.
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    Expect them to manipulate you any way they can to keep that money flowing in, but the simple truth is you don't have the money to give them, and you have a child now to look after too.
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    It's going to feel awkward to go against your programming for a bit - you already feel weird dad changed his routine and you're wondering what that means. Whatever else it means, you're safe.
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    You're an adult. They don't run your life like when you were a child. It's okay for them to be mad. It's okay for them to be disappointed. You don't need to change to regulate their mood.
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    No_Detective8552 OP OMG. Truer words have never been spoken.
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  • The comments seem to think that the son should not make assumptions about his parents' reaction so soon, while others think that either way, the son has done his best.

    What is your take on the situation?

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